Often discussed but rarely defined, former Syracuse University and NFL quarterback Don McPherson tackles the topic of masculinity in the 21st century. McPherson argues that the term toxic masculinity that is often discussed in the media is narrowly defined and does not help to create a productive conversation because men are not active participants in framing the narrative.
It departs from what it means to be a man and revolves around creating a culture of shame when raising young men. Instead of focusing on a discussion about authentic masculinity, young men are raised to not be feminine. Using his own lived experience, McPherson makes the argument that gender had more of an impact on his life than his race as an African-American.
McPherson speaks directly to the camera on his philosophy about masculinity and uses popular movie clips to move the conversation forward in this short 36-minute film. It is clear how the media presents the idea of what it means to be a ma—someone who is masculine and not feminine. The film title is drawn from the ultimate insult highlighted in the motion picture The Sandlot (1993) in which young men are hurling insults at each other which ends with the ultimate insult, “You throw like a girl.”
This film offers an excellent starting point for this conversation as it allows young men an opportunity to better understand ideas such as how toxic masculinity is defined by the media, how young men should be thinking about their own upbringing, and what this means for the relationships they have.
While this is a first step in addressing the inequity in today’s classrooms and media in which young women are empowered at the expense of empowering young men, it does not offer clear next steps in moving this conversation forward and changing how toxic masculinity is defined.
While the message of the film is how to reposition the definition of masculinity in a more holistic and positive manner, in order to make the point, the film uses some graphic language that may make viewers uncomfortable—including a number of colloquial phrases to describe sexual relationships. In an effort to make a larger point about how young men are raised exclusively not to be feminine there is also the use of a homophobic slur. This is not necessary and becomes a distraction from the larger message.
In addition, relationships are only discussed in a heterosexual context. A conversation that is supposed to redefine masculinity for the 21st century might include a more inclusive discussion. This film will add to collections supporting extracurricular programs designed specifically for young men in middle and high schools and colleges but would be an optional purchase for public library shelves. Optional purchase for developing collections focused on gender studies and social issues.
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